While psychotherapy will often provide relief or some changes in the first several sessions, outside resources can be a valuable addition to therapy.  Whether in conjunction with your therapy work, or as a tool for self-growth, here are some basic resources for self-help.


  • Parenting from the Inside-Out, by Dan Siegel & Mary Hartnell
  • The Whole-Brain Child, by Dan Siegel & Tina Bryson
  • No Drama Discipline, by Dan Siegel & Tina Bryson
  • Parenting your Powerful Child, by Kevin Leman
  • Parenting with Love & Logic, by Foster Cline & Jim Fay


  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Sue Johnson
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman & Nan Silver
  • Boundaries in Marriage, by Henry Cloud & John Townsend


  • Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown
  • Boundaries, by Henry Cloud & John Townsend 
  • Mindsight: The new science of personal transformation, by Dan Siegel 
  • Thrilled to Death, by Archibald Hart

Grief and Loss

  • Necessary Losses, by Judith Viorst
  • When Bad Things Happen to Good People, by Harold Kushner
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